It’s International Stress Awareness Day today so I thought I’d share a post about taking some of the stress out of working with your wedding day budget and planning within it.
As a former Project and Commercial Manager I know all about stressful budgeting, and I also know from experience that managing large projects don’t come close to the stress of wedding budgeting!
Here are my top 7 tips to help ease the strain on your wedding budget…
Spend within your means
A major stress factor when planning your wedding is budget worries. Don’t be unrealistic in your expectation that you will stick rigidly to a budget either, a bit of give and take is to be encouraged. You should always start out with a budget for each element of your wedding but expect that to change as you discover things like the perfect earrings that are £150 more than you had budgetted for. The key is that if you really want something have a look at other areas of your wedding and see where you can save a bit.
Don’t forget the Contingency
As a former Project Manager I always say to build in a contingency too. When you set your budget and you have your overall figure, make sure you have a line added in of 20% for contingency. The aim is not to spend this, try to visualise it as a bonus to have after the wedding is over, rather than to pay for the more expensive earrings! The contingency is there for emergencies that may arise in the lead up to your wedding, when your budget is tight and you are at your most stressed self.
Avoid the plastic
Your wedding will be the most momentous day of your life and the start of a new era. Try not to start the new phase of your life with debt to pay off. You will feel a bit of a slump after your wedding anyway, adding to this with money worries is not a good idea. If there is a venue, or a dress that you really want but can’t afford, think about waiting another year.
It’s much more satisfying saving up for a wedding slowly and building the excitement than having to pay it off later without the big day to look forward to.
Do It Yourself
There is a heap of inspiration online now and Pinterest is one of the best places to get your wedding visual fix, and many of the pins have tutorials showing you how to make it.
Better still, ditch the DIY and go for DFY, Done For You. Your friends will love being a part of the preparation for your wedding and asking them to help really makes them part of the day. Where DIY Brides sometimes struggle here is handing over responsibility of an important detail of their day to someone else. If you think outsourcing to friends means a lack of ‘quality control’ why not get together and show them how to make it and supervise them (in the nicest possible way whilst topping up their Prosecco!)
Even better still why not consider incorporating some of the ‘making’ into your Hen Party, like this idea from The Clarty Events Co.
Invite who you want
It’s your day. Don’t let anyone pressure you into something you don’t want to do. Similarly, invite who you want to invite. If you decide that you’re not going to invite the kids of people that you rarely see, stick to your guns if someone says they can’t come if they can’t bring their kids don’t cave. If you do someone else will complain that they didn’t get their way too.
We decided only to invite close family children to our wedding, and nobody took the huff. In fact most of my friends were glad of the chance not to bring them!
The only time you need to be a bit delicate about this situation is where parents are involved! It’s hard for them not to want to invite every second cousin that you’ve not seen since you were toddlers, and it will be hard for you if they’re paying for the wedding. Which takes us onto the next tip…
Be clear with your Parents
If you’re lucky enough that someone else, such as your parents, is contributing to your wedding, be clear up front about what you want. When you sit down and talk budgets with them set out your wishes from the start. So if you are limiting the guest list (and rightly so!) be sure that they understand from the outset where you will be drawing the line on inviting family members.
A good way to keep parents involved is to have them contribute to certain aspects of your wedding, such as towards the venue, or food. Then narrow down to a few choices that you really love and let them be involved in the decision making at that point, therefore everyone is happy (Ha, we all know the reality!)
You may have found that one of the rooms in your home has become the ‘wedding store room’. At some point after your big day you are going to want to regain control over your house and one of the ways to do this is to sell off the decorations and paraphenalia that you have bought and made.
You’ll be surprised how much you have spent. Keep a list of all expenditure relating to making decorations as well as everything else you buy in so that when the wedding is over and a little extra cash comes in handy you will be able to price up your items properly and sell them.
We’re working with The Clarty Events Co to help ease your Hen Do budget too, why not enter our competition to win a Clarty Hen Party, click on the link above to be in with a chance of winning a half day Hen Package.
We hope this blog has been useful to you, if there is anything you would like advice on please email us at email@example.com and we’ll do our best to answer it.
We are a Beachside Farm Wedding Venue based in Northumberland and we offer a flexible space for your wedding where you have full control over your suppliers and you can have the venue for the full weekend. Whether you are a beach, farn, barn, festival or boho bride we’d love to show you how you can have the wedding of your dreams at www.barnonthebay.com.